The Rainbow Bridge

An Uplifting Animation
Updated Friday, January 5, 2007

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.”
— Anatole France

Losing a loved one is heartbreaking, and too often lonely. Little understood by those who haven't had the joy and sorrow of a truly deep human/animal bond, we have grieved alone. These site is dedicated to both the beloved animals and in honor of those unnamed and unloved animals who die unnoticed each day. May we one day realize that all animals matter and may no animal ever die unloved again. May the quotes below, resources and art bring some peace to your heart.

In the beginning:

When you initially lose your animal is quite difficult to think on your feet so there are things that may slip your mind.

Get help, you are only one person, you cannot do it everything yourself, but there are many loving and caring people who are waiting for opportunities to help, especially animals and those that love them. This horribly scary event can actually be a blessing in disguise bringing you and your neighbors closer together. WALK A LOT, talk to EVERYONE, especially children (they talk to each other and have a network of knowledge about the area we adults have forgotten) and call out a lot if your animal friend responses to calling. Sunrise and sundown and around nine (bring flash light and look more quietly) are good times.

Rent humane traps and check often, no wet food at night because your animal may have to fight another animal; there are rescue groups in your local area that will help you

Immediately call your local animal shelter and report your animal missing.

It is better to go down there than to assume it is done. When you are there ask for a list of rescue groups in your area. Some groups will come to your area for a donation and help you find your animal.

Bring a flyer with you and post on the board as well as in the lost and found binder.

If the animal continues to stay missing go (or have someone go for you) to the shelters every five days or more.

MAKE SURE you ask to see all the rooms. Often animals arrive at the shelter hurt and are kept in another area until they have been treated.

Make flyers within right away. Post them in your immediate area first, but remember animals can travel and be picked up by well-meaning travelers, so broadcast your information widely (when Blossom our ancient Beagle went missing for 36+ hours we had people in India sending prayers and good energy to us); community bulletin boards; coffee places; flyers in people's mailboxes is actually illegal, but you can put flyers in places that people habitually go, on there newspapers, garbage cans, cars windshield, front porch, etc. One great way to get the whole community involved is to post flyers in very high traffic areas like popular shopping malls.

Put your animal's poster into the local paper as soon as possible. A photo is more expensive but early on it is important to have a lot of visibility.
Put a reward amount on all flyers. Describe your location, the animal’s names, distinguishing marks, collars, etc, male or female, spayed or not and quirks about your animal.

Look at all lost and found resources on line where you can post your animal and also view found animals There are some local shelters also have web (check for your local shelter) pages showing adoptable animals

Keep an eye on these: In Napa County California: www.co.napa.ca (more to be added 1-5-2007)

Give flyers to: local vets, pet stores, community groups, and churches, these are excellent resources because there is a built-in community of people who communicate with eachother.

Sometimes animals end up at the Humane Society so be sure to visit there often and show pictures of your animal.

Post your information on Craigslist with a link for a photo. Find out if there are local on line bulletin boards for your community (for example Sonoma County West California has a yahoo group called waccobb)

Call radio stations and ask them to mention your animal

Be creative, be intuitive, you will be lead. BREATHE

One of the best resources is pet communicators. They are quite comforting and often help to locate an animal. There is an Animal Communicator directory under their state at www.animaltalk.net
Here are a few who come highly recommended:
Annette Martin She actually works with the police department to locate lost people. There is a wait to get an appt with her.

Carol Robinson: Amazing gentle communicator with a great CD to guide you through meditations to bring your animal home called Missing Animal Resource & Meditation Guide

This heartfelt and comprehensive resource and meditation guide is custom made for the person in search of a missing animal companion. The contents are inspired from Carol’s own work as a professional animal communicator.
Carefully selected techniques are combined with a deep wisdom to offer practical, effective, and compassionate support during this stressful time.
Also included are two guided meditations led by Carol’s gentle voice, interwoven with the soothing background music.

1. Basic search tips and practical suggestions about where to begin and what steps to take.

2. A comprehensive and insightful message to empower, encourage, and comfort the listener.

3. Golden cord meditation for relaxation and reflection to help guide the animal home.

4. Oasis meditation to refreshen, rejuvenate and inspire solace for the listener. Beneficial both during the search and after the animal has been found.

To order: send check or money order for $17.60 (includes shipping if within the U.S.) to
Carol Robinson
P.O. Box 501
Corte Madera, CA 94976-0501

You can find communicators on Penelope Smith's website

There are some great books that help you to talk to your animal as well.

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There are pet detectives:
Sherlock Bones is one of them.
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You will be connected to many animal shelters; many have photos of found pets. Make sure that you register your lost or found pet.

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Your demeanor: Although this is by far one of the most devastating experiences, make a real effort to stay calm and TALK to your animal as much as possible. This may be hard for you to believe, but we have a very strong connection to them and if we are scared they feel it. Allow your feeling but send strong love to your animal
If there are any questions you need answered feel free to email us.

Peace and love to all animals and their families


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DO FIRST •  COPE with Loss  •  Grief RESOURCES •  LINKS  •  INSPIRATION

It is NEVER a waste of time to pet a cat.—An “Anonymous Kind Stranger”

A ray of sunshine is never lost,
The green that it inspires must take time to grow,
It is not always for the sower to see the fruits of the harvest.”

—Albert Schweitzer

“If we go to heaven, so do they…because if dogs are not there, it is not heaven.”

—Elizabeth Marshall Thomas

 

Depend on the Kindness of Strangers! When our ancient, deaf, and nearly blind beagle friend Blossom went missing for over thirty-six hours I got a lot of criticism for my actions. A lot of it very sane, caring and seemingly valid criticism. But when one loves deeply I am learning sometimes it is okay to embrace my craziness and fear and act outrageously to get the results i want. I took action anyway because I love ALL Animals and Art.

The Art i love is my husband, a seemingly ordinary guy, a blue collar worker who enjoys a beer at the pub and can talk with just about anyone. Beneath the surface, Artie Bock like so many of us, is a diamond in the rough. You see, Art is a sensitive. He feels deeply, and hurts for ALL actions that hurt the Earth and each other, and he especially feels for the suffering of animals. Unlike me, Art has not found it easy to be a vegetarian or vegan, but he does it anyway. His whole life, until now, has not been easy.

Art has often felt like he does not belong in this time and place. He cares so much that he ALWAYS tries to do the right thing for the Earth and all life. He has been misunderstood a lot and often been the butt of jokes. He is a slow, deliberate man in a fast, fast world.

Art has been hurt by the world and does not yet think that life is eternal. So the death and suffering of any animal touches him to the very core of his sensitive and huge heart. Art does not YET believe that good reigns supreme, so he does not know the power of prayer and positive visualization. Art does know the power of action and of communication with everyday people. On his 50th birthday, he rode his BIKE 3,600 miles to RAISE AWARENESS of Animal CRUELTY. It was very, very hard, but he did it anyway and he touched a lot of lives with little fanfare, and almost no recognition.

He has wanted to do it again for twelve years. But didn’t, because his beloved mother got sick. The last two years, Art has worked at a dull job and spent all of his vacation time with his mother.

I have been writing this 3,000 miles away from Art and not spoken to him since Blossom disappeared, I want the world to change for Art. I want to help empower him to find happiness in THIS lifetime. I am feeling our dear departed Mother’s spirit guiding me because she wants to heal all the Arts of the world. All last week while Blossom has been missing, he’s been carrying a huge burden, emptying his childhood home and saying goodbye to his old life of strife. I knew if he had one more loss it might destroy his budding faith forever. He lost our beloved Monty in June, and dear, dear Mom in July, and our beloved Trust Love in September. He could NOT lose Blossom too. So at the moment he releases his Mother's ashes I am going to press the button and send this to as many people as I can all over the world.

It is ALREADY WORKING, Art just this moment called, he sounds like a different person, he has said for the first time that I have known him that he feels “truly blessed” by ALL the people who have been helping him. He has no idea how many people that is because he has not known anything about the massive campaign of action and prayer and visualization that is going on for over 36 hours to find Blossom and help Art.

Art and I just coordinated the timing so at the very moment he is releasing his Mother's ashes we will press the button and release this message all over the world.

I could have just relaxed and visualized Blossom’s safe return, but I needed to do more than that .I am learning to embrace my fear and anxiety and use it for good. While always speaking the truth I have told many, many people we needed to take action to bring Blossom home safe.


“No heaven will not ever heaven be;
Unless my cats are there to welcome me.”
Quote by an Anonymous“Kind Stranger”


People have taken action with their legs, hands, and mouths, speaking, writing, walking and making calls and people have taking action with their minds, increased the power of my intention with their prayers and visualizations. ALL took action with their hearts. Unbeknownst to many i did calm myself continuously and visualized a positive outcome, i could not have kept my vow of only two hours sleep a night for two and a half days without that. i didn't know for sure what that positive outcome would be. Sometimes very bad things can bring a community together. So i used ALL my creative energy to work for the outcome i wanted.

I know I have broken a lot of rules in writing this. It may sound preachy, sanctimonious, misspelled, holier-than-thou, crazy, certainly too wordy, but I feel I should just strike while the fire is hot. You see, Blossom was lost on “World Law of Attraction Night” after showing “The Secret” at my HEALING ART Gallery It was my guests who inadvertently locked her outside while i was in the kitchen.
At first I panicked. My old Catholic programming told me I had been too arrogant, too happy, too powerful, playing too big, NOW God was punishing me. Eventually I realized God plays a better game, there is a reason for ALL this and a positive outcome IS inevitable. I just did not know what that outcome was so I felt i had to work hard, together with the Universe, to try to effect it in the way i want. More evolved beings would not work so hard.

I received a lot of caring criticism for my vow of sleeping two hours in twenty-four until Blossom was home safe or Art came home to a missing Blossom. I have learned a lot lately since I saw “The Secret” and decided to heal myself of two “incurable diseases”. Medical experts said I would need to take drugs for the rest of my life. Since September 4th of this year, I have lost over thirty pounds of past pain, and transformed my life. I am writing this because I want to help transform others lives.

One thing I have learned is the Universe or whatever you want to call it, at least for me, really supports my intentions if I am true to my WORD and totally honest, I always speak the truth. I want to play a big game and so i do not give my word lightly. After thirteen years experience of hardly sleeping I have been through the fire of insomnia and weaned myself from medication. The vow was a very conscious decision I knew I needed to make and could do. While going through my healing I have learned to stay as centered as I need to be to be effective on very little sleep and get maximum results. But not everyone is me and I don’t want anyone to have to go through that much pain to get that we can have a better world.

This story has a very, very happy outcome that I want to share with everyONE who expressed interest, because it is something really good. As I wrote the following last night I was truly, deeply tired, but Blossom had been found because of the many people throughout the world who took action, prayed, visualized, and encouraged others to get involved. This little lost dog created something that is growing far bigger and will help many animals and animal lovers. It became clear during this search that no ONE should need to have sleepless nights worrying about their BELOVED family member—no old and disabled nor young and healthy animal should mistakenly think its abandoned, that we animal lovers can truly be a more powerful voice in the world.

I ended the day Saturday at Animal Control where some kind stranger brought Blossom probably after she peed and pooped in his house after he gave her shelter from the cold night. Blossom is fine and apparently got to eat lots of fun food. (She only gets super-healthy food at HOME) She ran out of her cage expecting everyone around (we had gathered a small audience) to give her treats and was bouncing around with vitality; it was a happy moment for ALL, and a testimonial to good nutrition for an ancient girl. It helped that she is deaf, because the barking of the other dogs was deafening.

A really unexpected high came from finding out i could comfort myself in all the chaos of barking and tension by offering comfort to the many other frightened and lonely animals. They really did quiet down when we were just with them, feeling their feelings, and accepting them exactly as they are. The lyrics from the Who: "FEEL Me, SEE me, TOUCH Me, HEAL Me" seemed so true. Many of these dogs will not be adopted and probably die soon, but they had a brighter day because we chose to spend a few minutes just BEING with each other. And the dogs loved licking “magic dust” off my fingers. Together with unconditional love it did—well—magic of course! We are truly far more powerful than we realize. You can visit them too at Dogs to Share Love With or DOGS near you at your local shelter. It will change your life forever, they will not let you forget them.

i was also surprised to find so many overworked, caring people crying out for help. It is a hard job and a lot of caring goes on behind the scenes as they struggle to do their jobs. ALL the people I dealt with, but especially Ken, were flexible and went out of their way to help get my old girl home with minimum red tape and a microchip which they provide for a small fee to help prevent lost animals.

All this work started connecting caring people who want to create an Amber Alert for Animals, and people are continuing to come forth. We think the name “Kindness of Strangers” KISS is good, do you, have a suggestion for a better name? Email us at Name for Animal Amber Alert. We have made many allies. If you are reading this, you are probably ONE of them, so please continue to lend your support to help establish this Animal Alert System. If you cared enough to read about Blossom in this crazy, busy world, you are a person who will want to help prevent a sadder ending for the next lost dog or cat.

In my desperation to save Blossom, it became increasingly clear I needed to talk and listen to others about their concerns, especially the people I thought couldn’t possibly understand me, such as the people at Animal Control Donate to their good work and my neighbors in our HUMBLE neighborhood who seem to look at me like i am weird (i AM an artist, they are right!). (UPDATE two days later: I just had a long halting conversation with my Spanish-speaking Christian neighbor, (the first time we have ever spoke so long) as a result of Blossom’s saga i find she LOVES animals and we are planning to work together to help homeless animals, (you may translate this site to Spanish or thirty-three other languages.)i talked to strangers about barking dogs and angry neighbors needing quiet, about how the seemingly “vicious” dog could be like Blossom and really just think you have a treat for her or that you need some love. i realized i cannot educate if I don’t find the courage to talk. i met many neighbors in this effort, people who had really wanted to know me but where afraid to approach. (And, yes, sometimes it seems like it was a waste of effort to talk, but i took the risk anyway many times since the goal was so important, and sometimes the outcome was surprisingly sweet.)

I believe we don’t need to “create” community—it is already here all around us, we just need to recognize it and allow it to grow. The fire is set, we just need to LIGHT it with the spark of our own creative CONSCIOUSNESS.

Thank you all for your powerful intentions, prayers, visualizations, and caring in whatever form it may have taken—and MOST ESPECIALLY, ACTION—to help the animals (and we are all animals aren’t we?) I even thank those who ignored my pleas, had short tempers, and judgments against me—you are teaching me to be more effective, something each one of us who truly loves animals must do if we are going to effectively help the plight of the Earth's animals.
Most of all, thank you to Sean Terry, an eight-year old with vision, who conquered his fears and talked to many people, and had great ideas to help save Blossom, We will have a neighborhood award ceremony where Sean, and other Kind Strangers will receive the recognition they deserve.

Thank you Mary A. Quinn of AllAboard Animal Search and Rescue who really needs the $500 reward (and much more). She is working so hard, mostly unknown and unseen, performing miracles to help find and care for animals. Thank you Dian Hardy for great concern and tireless outreach, AND to passionate animal activist, Dana, a complete kind stranger who drove miles to my house, because my line was busy and she wanted to help, even though she was exhausted. Dana also needs our support to find an affordable home where she can raise two big dogs training to be rescue dogs for cats.

Kind Strangers, Heroes, and Sheroes, ALL of you, especially those who helped and haven’t been thanked, because you did it from the heart, asking for nothing but the satisfaction of helping—YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE.

Animal Bereavement
Quotes

An angel came to me one day,
A ball of fur in hand.
The angel gave the ball to me,
As we stood there in the sand.
She said to me, "It's just a loan,
For only a short time."
And she would surely return one day,
For the ball of fur wasn't mine.
I looked down at the ball of fur,
Two eyes stared back at me.
I fell in love upon that day,
As I held it close to me.
Years went by and my love grew,
As close friends we became.
I looked down at my ball of fur,
Life was never again the same.
No matter where I found myself,
My friend would be there, too.
Then one day the angel came,
I didn’t know what to do.
She said that now the time had come,
To take my friend back home.
I watched her leave with tear filled eyes,
As I remembered
It's just a loan.—Hoyt Northcutt
Pets are loaned to us by God for a short time to teach each of us humility and unconditional love.
Hoyt Northcutt “Only animals were not expelled from Paradise.”—Milan Kundera“Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that animal goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water, and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing: They each miss someone very special, someone who was left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. Her bright eyes are intent: her eager body begins to quiver. Suddenly, she breaks from the group, flying over the green grass, faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into those trusting eyes, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together…”—Author unknown

Oh Noble Creature the time has come for the two of us to part. And for you to go to a better place, a place deep inside my heart. A place where you’ll be be free to chase cars and balls and play. So go noble creature thru that doggy door. And fetch a stick that’s thrown by God. And wag thy tail forevermore while a friendly voice repeats, “Good dog, good dog.”—Author unknown

“I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speak of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
“Then someone at my side says: There, she is gone!'
“Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.
“Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says: 'There she is gone!' there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout: "Here she comes!'
“And that is dying.”
—Henry Van Dyke

“In a place and time not far from here twins were conceived. As they grew in awareness within the womb they shared the JOY of BEING alive. When they found their mother's cord they sang: "How great is our mother's love, she shares her own life with us! But as time pasted and they grew older great and frightening changes began happening to their bodies.
"What does it mean?" said the girl.
"It means our stay in this world is coming to an end." The boy answered.
"But I want to stay here forever!" she cried.
He responded, "We have no choice."
She asked hopefully, "Maybe there is life after birth?
"How can there be? "he said, "We'll shed our life cord, and life is not possible without it. Besides we have seen evidence that others were here before us and none have ever returned to tell us there is life after birth.
No, this is the end."
Despairing she said, "If everything ends in birth, what is the purpose of life? It's all meaningless! Maybe there is no mother after all?"
"There has to be," he protested. "How else did we get here? how do we remain alive?"
"Have you ever seen our mother?" she asked. "Maybe she lives only in our minds. maybe we just made her up to feel better?"
And so their last days in the womb were filled with fear and deep questioning. Finally the moment of birth arrived. When the twins had passed from their world and OPENED THEIR EYES they were DELIGHTED BEYOND their Wildest Dreams!”
—Author unknown. This quote illustrated

“Do not weep for me when I am gone, for I have friends in the great beyond. All the little ones I used to feed, will come to me in my time of need.
They will purr and bark in great delight, and I will hold and hug them tight. Oh what a great day that will be when my furry friends all welcome me.”
—Richard Severo

“We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way. We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding the necessary plan.”
—Irving Townsend from “The Once Again Prince”

“Somewhere—somewhere in time's own space there must be some sweet pastured place, where creeks sing on and tall trees grow, some Paradise where horses go, for by the love that guides my pen I know great horses live again.”
—Stanley Harrison

“When I die if you need to weep cry for whatever separates you from anyone you love. And when you need me put your arms around each other and give whatever you need to give or receive from me. I wanted to leave you something, something better than words or sounds. Look for me in those I have known or loved and if you cannot give me to them let me live in your eyes and touch and not in your mind. You can love me most by letting hands touch, by letting heart reach out to heart. And by letting go of anything that makes you unfree to love each other Love doesn't die, we do. So when all that is left of me is love, give me away to each other”
— Author unknown


“Do not stand at my grave and weep. I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle Autumn's rain. When you awaken in the mornings hush. I am the swift up-flinging rush of quiet birds in circling flight. I am the soft star that shines at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there. I did not die.”
—Mary Frye

“What is a man without the beasts? If all the beasts were gone, men would die form great loneliness of spirit…”—Chief Seattle

“Never does one feel oneself so utterly helpless as in trying to speak comfort for great bereavement. I will not try it…”
—Jane Welsh Carlyle

“If, as I can't help suspecting, the dead also feel the pains of separation (and this may be one of their purgatorial sufferings), then for both lovers, and for all pairs of lovers without exception, bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love.”
—C. S. Lewis

“And if I go, while you're still here —know that I still live on vibrating to a different measure behind a thin veil you cannot see through.
You will not see me, so you must have faith. I wait the time when we can soar together again, both aware of each other. Until then, live your life to the fullest. And when you need me, just whisper my name in your heart—I will be there.”
—Pauline Hitchcock

“I believe that the loss of a beloved companion animal is like no other loss because our relationships with animals are like no other. Our culture tells us that an animal companion is an engaging toy, and that our grief over its death is alarming and ill-paced. And our culture is just flat wrong. As a survivor of advanced cancer myself, I believe that the love and comfort of animals in great measure graced me with recovery. This being the case, I would not be one to take kindly to any cultural diminishment of our relationship with 'the other.' Bluntly put, 'Them's fightin' words' in my world. Animals are more to us than we know. Their partnership with us is a holy one that endures across a lifetime and possibly beyond.”—Susan Chernak McElroy, in “Grieving the Death of a Pet” by Betty J. Carmack

“If we go to heaven, so do they…because if dogs are not there, it is not heaven.”—Elizabeth Marshall Thomas

“May all beings everywhere plagued with sufferings of body and mind quickly be freed from their pain. May those frightened cease to be afraid, and may those bound be free. May the powerless find power, and may people befriend all life. May those of all species who find themselves lost, the young, the aged, the unprotected, be guarded by beneficent celestials, and may they swiftly attain Buddha hood.”—Buddhist Prayer for Peace This quote on Greeting Card

“The animals of the planet are in desperate peril…without free animal life I believe we will lose the spiritual equivalent of oxygen.”—Alice Walker

“A Robin Redbreast in a cage Puts all Heaven in a Rage.”— William Blake, Auguries of Innocence

“When an unloved creature suffers and dies heaven rages and angels cry.”—Nan Sea Love.
This quote on Angel Greeting Card

“I know no greater proof for the existence of a benevolent God, no greater Heaven than holding a purring cat. Those who hunger for love need look no further. God has put opportunities to love and care all around us.”
—Nan Sea Love this quote on Greeting Card
 
“The fate of animals is of greater importance to me than the fear of appearing ridiculous.”
—Emile Zola

“The soul is the same in all living creatures, although the body of each is different.”—Hippocrates

“Animals possess a soul and men must love and feel solidarity with our smaller brethren…as near to God as men are.”—His Holiness Pope John Paul II. This quote on Artwork

“ALL beauty is but Art that thou canst not see,
ALL chance direction unknown to thee,
ALL discord harmony misunderstood,
ALL partial evil, Universal Good.”

—Alexander Pope

Some Suggestions to Alleviate Grief from Reverend Nan Sea Love

This technique helped me after the loss of my beloved animal friend, Precious. Perhaps it will be helpful to you. Before meditation I held a picture of Precious and talked to the picture as if I were talking to him, feeling all the love I felt for him as I poured my heart out, looking at and kissing his picture. I then meditated as I held the picture close to my heart. I really felt again, for the first time since his death, some of the warm wonderful feelings I had previously only been able to feel in his living presence. I regretted so deeply not having a video of him so i could see his dear little body as it was so full of life. I strongly suggest if you video your beloved while he or she is alive.

I will at a later date share the meditation i had two years later that helped convince me his soul lives on, something my very skeptical rational mind just could not believe prior to that meditation.

Some Suggestions On Euthanasia
Making It the Best Possible Experience

The decision to euthanize is always extremely difficult especially because an animal cannot tell what he or she really needs. No matter how intuitive you are, how much you pride yourself in your ability to communicate with animals, or how certain you are about such concepts as an afterlife, you cannot know for sure what an animal is feeling or what happens to its soul when disconnected from the body. To impose our mere beliefs or what we hope is true on an animal that is at our mercy may result in great, if unintentional, unkindness. I believe even world-renowned wise persons or spiritual leaders could be arrogant if they impose their perception of reality or belief system on beings entirely at our mercy. The Pope, Swami Muktananda, and the greatest leaders of Islam cannot all be accurate about afterlife and the souls of animals. For the animal’s sake we need to be humble in our beliefs.

I wrote the following just one week before our other veterinarian (our home veterinarian was out with an injury) suggested that in my sweet dog friend, Monte's best interest we release him. I knew all day long this was a real possibility. But it was a trip of thirty miles and I was sick. I just wasn't up to going and he seemed better. I have long felt Monte picking up communications from me, and I felt for the first time during or after any death that communication. I spoke to the vet, a really great guy about my concerns about the letting the sedative work long enough and my husband held the phone to Monte's ear as i talked to him—but for once words did come easily. I experienced racking sobs and great sorrow, and for a while intense anger at my life and body for being sick so that I was not physically there with Monte. I hope no one read the following before I qualified this as in this time of grief you don't need one more reason to feel badly. We all do the best we can. If I could have had it different it would be.

In the following i am sharing another personal story or a far more "ideal” euthanasia, (if such a thing can be said of killing someone you love) and experiences in the hope you may find it a helpful guide when your animal friend’s death becomes inevitable. In retrospect I chose to release my beloved Precious a week later than what probably would have been best for him. I loved him so much, yet my need for him blinded me. I kept thinking we would defy the odds—great nutrition and every alternative therapy I could find kept me clinging to a hope for a miracle. I had never been one to cling to anything, and never will again.

Death can cause very unpredictable behavior. Be prepared for this time if at all possible. I wasn't and perhaps caused my beloved unnecessary pain, something I deeply regret. The animal's feelings must always come first, they depend on us to make the best decisions for them, not ourselves. That said, if there is any question about the necessity to euthanize please be careful not to act too quickly either. I know from experience, you may be plagued with that regret also.

If you can get a veterinarian that makes home visits it is much better for the already stressed and ailing animal, especially cats who usually hate cars under the best circumstances. Recently since another one of our animal friends is ill I have interviewed three veterinarians to see when they are available and just how they proceed with euthanization. I asked a lot of questions and only pray when the time comes we will be able to again use Precious’ wonderful veterinarian who was remarkably sensitive (Update we where able to have her administer this sacred rite of passage). One veterinarian I interviewed thought herself kind because she would come to our home, muzzle our dog, and administer an admittedly painful sedative before euthanization! I talked at length to her and could see that was the best she was going to give. No professional likes to be told they are wrong, but you can carefully suggest how you want it done and see what they will agree to, ask lots of questions, ask for details, and don't settle for anything but the best for your loved one, you can do this!

When the time to face the inevitable finally came with Precious I was blessed with a great Sonoma County veterinarian (sorry she wishes to remain anonymous you will have to find another great vet or educate yours). I have experienced two cats deaths before, the first time I saw the poor cat fighting the needle the whole time. The next "mercy killing" I witnessed we requested a sedative, but the veterinarian did not wait long enough for the sedative to take complete hold so poor Sweet Boy’s last moment was not entirely peaceful. I saw the shocked look in his eyes at his last conscious moment. This is someone I love who trusted me. I will never let it happen again.

This is how it should have been: Precious’ last moment on this Earth was peaceful. My vet told me that often one sedative is not enough and you must give it enough time to work; she gently gave the first sedative and patiently waited for twenty to thirty minutes for it to take full effect. During that time she invited me to act as if I were alone and say anything I wanted to Precious. Making myself as peaceful as possible I set aside my own fears and questions to just look into his eyes (cats do pick up our anxiety, currently I administer by needle 50cc of subcutaneous fluid two times a day to one of our kitty friends and when I learned to be peaceful the ordeal transformed for both kitty and me) and poured my love out to him, reassured him he was safe, that there was nothing to be afraid of. After patiently waiting the twenty or more minutes my patient, very caring veterinarian gently administered a second sedative, again letting it work for about twenty or thirty minutes. Precious simply went to sleep and then the final drug was administered. Having seen two previous "mercy killings" this is the best circumstance i know for such an awful experience. Share your transition experiences.

If your animal friend is close to you or someone else try to make sure they are there to help with the transition. For some that will simply be too painful, please, in this very difficult time, accept your and others limitations. Everyone is doing the best they can. Precious’ best friend, a former feral cat named Trust Love stayed close by all through Precious' illness. He stayed in the room during the whole sacred process and with Precious' body for over twelve hours (and did not go back into that room for almost ten months). My vet also said it was very important to show Trust where we were burying Precious, which we did. Trust cried long forlorn kitty cries for months, but we consoled each other, becoming for each other the great love we each had lost. (Update: Both Trust and Precious are now buried next to each other now in our backyard, a Sacred Healing Place under the Redwood. We included cuttings of our hair, precious jewels, writing from our hearts, and other treasures with these so loved bodies. I had formerly thought of a dead body as just a shell, cast off by the Spirit. i do not really understand why these ritualistic behaviors are important for healing, but i know in my heart they are healing, for who i cannot say.

Bereavement Links

Ten Tips for Getting Through Pet Loss
Very good advice for people coping with pet loss from Moira Anderson Allen, M.Ed.

In Memory of Pets
This beautiful site offers free memorials for pet owners that have lost their beloved, and also beautiful, heart warming poems.

Lightning Strike
This site offers a cyber shoulder to those who are dealing with grief after the death of a pet, and also offers poems, a pet loss news group, and a message board.

Pet Loss Grief Support Web site
From petloss.com, this site helps to remember your beloved pet. A candle lighting ceremony is held every Monday evening in rembrance.

Recommended reading, Am I Blue? by Alice Walker, Animals and the Afterlife about people who have connected with the spirit of their loved animal after death, and Dead Lady of Clown Town by Cordwainer Smith

Sites Concerned with Religion and Animal Rights

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